I Am Kinda A Big Deal • Social Antisocial • Music Lover • Control Freak • Word Worshipper • Free Spirit • Beautifully Blended • Cape Verdean Brazilian Afro American • Dedicated Daughter • World Traveler • Future Supreme Court Justice • Lady Licker • Organized Mess • Undercover Fashionista • Triathlete • Porn Watcher • Aspiring Marathoner • Tortured Insomniac


Reminders to self:

  • I am intelligent
  • I am beautiful
  • Do things at my own pace and don’t focus on what your peers are doing or where they are in life
  • It’s ok to take a break from school if my mental health is getting worse
  • Asking for help doesn’t make me weak/dumb…it’s ok to ask for help
  • Be selfish more often and stop trying to please others so much (mainly my parents)
  • Don’t be sweet when guys catcall/harass me
  • It’s ok if I gain/lose weight
  • I’m dope af tbh
"No one can change unless they want to, force never works, change happens when you see the light for yourself."

When you eat a black woman out, you are getting a taste of the nectar of life



Cherish that shit and don’t be stupid.

Getting the essence of existence
Allow it to fill you up


“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!”


"People assume that I was in the closet because I didn’t disclose that I was assigned male at birth. What people are really asking is ‘Why didn’t you correct people when they perceived you as a real woman?’ Frankly, I’m not responsible for other people’s perceptions and what they consider real or fake. We must abolish the entitlement that deludes us into believing we have the right to make assumptions about people’s identities and project those assumptions onto their gender and bodies.

It is not a woman’s duty to disclose she’s trans to every person she meets. This is not safe for a myriad of reasons. We must shift the burden of coming out from trans women, and accusing them of hiding or lying, and focus on why it is unsafe for women to be trans."